Why High Performers Burn Out Quietly

If you’re productive, motivated, and capable, people assume you’re fine.

Even when you’re running on fumes.

That’s the cost of always being “on.”

What does always being "on" look like? It doesn't necessarily mean the same for everyone, but you will notice certain of these statements ring true for you:

• consistently mentally engaged

• quick to react emotionally

• consistently physically tired

• always reachable

• trouble falling asleep as you can't turn your brain off

Now I've used some significant qualifiers there, words like "always" and "consistently" don't take those literally, but do some self reflection on how often those are the case. And maybe you're in the group that runs this way during the week, and then uses the weekend to recharge. That method can work, but typically the weekends aren't long enough, or turned down enough to truly recover from the built up stress of the week.

What this habit of living in this "on" state creates is the situation of chronic stress, and that's important to differentiate from acute stress. Acute stress is the stress we want as that's short term and recoverable stress that our body (and mind) will be able to adapt to better handle in the future. This doesn't mean they have to be the intense kinds of workouts I mentioned earlier, but any sort of event that pushes the body past its level of normalcy is a stressor. In contrast, chronic stress builds over time and indicates that the body doesn't have the capacity to recover such that the stress starts compounding. This can lead to all sorts of physical and mental challenges that take orders of magnitude longer to recover from, REDS (Relative Energy Deficiency in Sports) and stress fractures being two common examples. Chronic stress with have a significant impact on your physical performance as well as mental capacity and motivation levels that far outweigh the downtime needed to prevent this buildup. High performers are especially at risk for these behaviors as they're generally more adept at tolerating stress for longer periods and will normalize any levels of fatigue as they'll "sleep when they're dead." This class of personality is also more likely to dismiss any of the warning signs and push any sort of recovery to the weekend, next week, or once this project ends.

So how does one maximize their performance without falling into a stress cycle they can't get out of? The first step, like with many other processes I've suggested, is an awareness of the patterns. If anything I've mentioned above rings a little true, it would be worthwhile to start paying more attention to your energy levels, mental acuity, sleep habits, and emotional states to understand how they fluctuate. If you notice a couple of these are trending in the directions you don't want, then you'll want to look for ways to help create more of an energy wave, and not an energy straight line. You can still have those peaks, but you need to also create some valleys. This can be done on any timeline you want, but a great place to start would be daily - aim for at least 2 peaks and valleys (to start) during the course of the day. These don't need to be long periods of time, but even carving out a block of time for a walk, phone call with a friend or loved one, or a TV show will help create those valleys. Once you get a handle on how effective this is, you can then look to see if perhaps a full recovery day might be helpful - whether that's on a weekly basis or more spread out. And for those longer more sustained periods of stress (large work project, major presentation, goal race, etc) you should plan for at least a day of recovery after the event to mentally and physically wind down. As you work to incorporate this approach, you'll notice your peaks can become longer and higher with the valleys becoming more natural.

Being “on” isn’t the same as being effective.

Performance is built on cycles — not constant pressure.

The goal isn’t to do less — it’s to recover better.

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Why Consistency Beats Intensity (Especially for High Performers)

Big goals tend to attract big plans — aggressive workouts, strict nutrition, packed schedules.

And for a few weeks, they work.

Until they don’t.

I tend to encounter this challenge more at the start of a clients' journey, but we can all fall into the trap of chasing intensity at any point of our fitness lives. It is a natural choice to make, and for many there's logic there to "make up for lost time" or "strike while the iron is hot" to take advantage of the early motivation curve. There's also the mental aspect that hard workouts feel good and there's a great sense of accomplishment from completely them, not to mention it definitely feeds into the "go hard or go home" mentality. However, the biggest challenge with this approach is that while yes it can create quick short term changes those are just an illusion of progress.  In reality, chasing intensity primarily will lead to an increased injury risk and an increase in required recovery time between workouts which will negatively impact any sort of adherence to a program. The last issue I want to mention is that this approach will collapse under any sort of increase in life stress or when schedules get busy.

The alternative to chasing intensity is to chase consistency, start small and build the consistency first then slowly increase from there. I know sometimes it is hard to think this way, but health isn't a short term goal - starting with the thought process of "what changes can I make now that I could realistically consistently do for the rest of my life" is the best approach. These small consistent changes with build results, and those results will start to compound as you continue. Another huge advantage of this approach is that it is more adaptable to life changes as you can shift your workouts more easily as a 10 minute mobility session might be the perfect workout after a tough day. This adaptability also applies to overall recovery and stress management as the consistency allows your body to more adequately recover from each workout and absorb the training load from the next workout, further increasing your overall progress.

I've mentioned that this "intensity" trap usually happens when starting off, but there are also ways this mentality can creep in even after working out for a period of time. There are a few ways this can happen:

• An "all or nothing" approach to a workouts - if I can't get the exact workout in, don't ever try

• Always striving for the perfect nutrition each day - this is impossible to maintain and leads to binges

• Allowing your recovery to become optional - recovery doesn't need to happen every day, but it should be a consistent part of your training, no matter your goals.

• Make up sessions - attempting the hero weekend, where you fit in all the sessions you missed during the week.

All of these have some logic that sounds good, but consistently falling into any of the above traps will derail your progress at best, and at worst lead to burnout or injury.

For optimal results, especially if you're chasing performance, the best approach is going to be a careful mixture of both consistency AND intensity. However, the intensity is going to be sporadic and targeted to match your goals. For example, in the endurance sports world, there's a common training approach that's an 80/20 model meaning that 80% of training is done at low intensities and 20% is done at higher levels. That same kind of idea can be applied anywhere, and of course the appropriate numbers may vary, but the idea of the majority of your work being focused on consistency as the main course with intensity being the spices added to the meal. Then when you start to vary the training loads, you'll also want to make sure you're matching that appropriately with your nutrition, sleep, and recovery such that you can maximize your progress and efficiency.

Intensity gets attention. Consistency builds outcomes.

If your plan only works when life is calm, it isn’t a good plan.

Sustainable progress comes from doing what you can — repeatedly.

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Stretching Isn’t the Fix: Strength & Movement Are

If you feel stiff, sore, or restricted, your first instinct is probably to stretch more.

But for most people, tightness isn’t a flexibility problem — it’s a capacity problem.

Strength and movement solve far more issues than endless stretching ever will.

I've had many clients initially tell me they wanted to be more flexible and I appreciate that we all have goals however I believe there are better goals to strive for than flexibility out of the gate.  One quick test is a standing squat, notice the depth you can achieve and then perform that same squat using a door frame, bar, squat rack, anything for support and notice the depth again.  For most people, there is a significant difference which shows the issue isn't flexibility (at least in legs) but in strength for your body to get into and out of that position.  Now if you're one of the few that those 2 exercises have similar depths, than yes perhaps mobility is an issue.  However, the second question I then ask is what everyday activities are restricted by this "lack of mobility" and usually there aren't any.  Again, if something comes up that should be addressed but for most they would be better served to chase strength, especially at the edges of their range of motion than spending time on stretching.

The first thing to look at when working on mobility and flexibility, and that is to maximize the range of motion with your exercises. This may require using less weight than normal, but that additional range of motion will provide a large stimulus that will dramatically increase overall strength. Another good option is to hold at that full range of motion to provide a specific stimulus at your weakest portion of the movement. Not only will this combination increase your overall mobility but that increased mobility will greatly decrease your likelihood of injury.

The next best way to increase mobility is through frequent movement of those joints with minimal stress but full range of motion. Think of things like walking, easy bike rides, or perhaps even swimming as activities that fall into this bucket. The main benefits of this kind of movement is that it:

• lubricates joints

• increases blood-flow throughout the body which brings nutrients and removes waste

• and it reinforces natural movement patterns

This movement doesn't need to be a long duration, even short durations can be beneficial - try to at least get to the point where you feel your body loosen up.

All this isn't to say that stretching doesn't have a place in a healthy lifestyle - it certainly can, but many either implement it incorrectly or at the wrong times. There are typically two kinds of stretching:

• Dynamic, or moving stretches - these typically incorporate slow movements through an entire range of motion. Think leg swings, arm swings, body leans, etc.

• Static stretching - holding the same stretched position for anywhere from 10 seconds through multiple minutes.

Dynamic stretching is best used before exercise as a warm-up to prime the muscles for whatever exercise you're about to start. Static stretching is best used either as a cool-down after exercise or as part of a night-time routine to calm the muscles and nervous system before sleep. Stretching then becomes the enhancement tool for your exercise and not the main event.

Most people don’t need more mobility drills — they need more movement and more strength.

Build capacity. Move often. Use stretching as a tool, not a crutch.

When strength and movement lead the way, mobility follows naturally.

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From Reflection to Direction: My New Year Process

A strong year isn’t forged by one bold resolution — it’s shaped by consistent intention.

Before setting goals, I step back, assess the last year, and choose how I want to show up in the next one.

One of the most common traditions this time of year is some sort of resolution, change, plan, or something to do differently to start off year.  Over the past few years, I have switched up towards more of a process that I also implement around any other significant event such as a race or work event. I use this as a time for reflection, looking at the things I did well in the previous year, some areas that didn't go so well and lessons learned from them, and finally a look forward to next year with a combination of incremental process goals, things I want to improve on, and then a "big scary goal" or two. I'm sharing this here for two reasons, one to walk through what I believe is a more successful concept, and two to provide myself with a level of accountability.

Looking back at last year, I didn't have any of those stand-out wins or massive highs but it definitely was a year of consistency. I feel like this consistency applies to the business side most with regards to my clients, my level of service to them, and also with my consistently looking to learn and continue to improve. I also feel like I managed to gradually work on my sleep, the most challenging part getting to bed earlier. There's still lots of room to improve but the increased awareness and small shift should help lead into this year for even more improvement. My training didn't go quite as planned as I started the year recovering from a torn labrum, and then later in the year picked up another hip injury. But I do feel like both of these injuries brought me greater awareness of my body, especially while running as I needed to make various tweaks based on my physical therapy. This awareness also helped me more smartly adhere to my training plan and also know when I needed to make shifts in the plan. The last area I wanted to call out was not only a better handle on my schedule, but also doing a better job of protecting the parts of my schedule that I needed (or wanted) to hold. While this may sound trivial, I have a habit of rearranging my schedule to fit others and while that has certain obvious advantages it does create other challenges for me and my mental outlook. Shifting just a little bit along that scale towards protecting my schedule helps me strike a better balance in my life.

As for areas that didn't go as well, I don't go into this process trying to find every issue or mistake but instead look at one or two significant aspects that were the most impactful on the year. Probably the most obvious one that jumps out to me was my consistency with strength training, which I realize might sound odd coming from someone who knows how important it is. I will firmly admit that I am one of my toughest clients, and spoiler this will be an item coming up that I plan to work on. I also recognize that I probably got a little too comfortable with my client base and didn't push as hard I as I could to grow that, or improve what I'm doing for my existing clients. This is also one of those areas where I am my worst critic as well, but I do feel like there's room for improvement there. Finally the other aspect I recognize got a bit out of control was my ability to check out for longer than I probably should. Yes there are times when I need to zone out to relax and recharge, but far too often a 30 minute mental break turned into multiple hours. This one will probably be tough to break, but I feel like one of the tweaks I made towards the end of the year will help with this and more awareness will also help reign this habit in a bit.

So what does my plan for 2026 look like? As part of this process, I look to identify a couple of processes that I want to improve, a couple of specific targets (usually with a couple levels to them), and then a "scary" goal or two. I mentioned it above, but top of the list that I need to work on is my strength training consistency and I've already addressed many of the logistical challenges with a routine - I simply need to do it. My plan to improve my consistency starts with actually scheduling the slot on my calendar, as only having it on my training plan doesn't seem to work. I will also make the mental shift that these workouts are my most important ones of the week, and need to happen before I "reward" myself with my long run. I also want to work on keeping my schedule more in control, satisfying my clients but also leaving room for myself. I've made strides this year, but feel like there's a gap between the day to day scheduling and longer term stuff. I'm recently starting using a tool called Notion (just the free version at this time) to help better organize and visualize my longer term projects and that coupled with my existing calendar should help improve this situation. I do have some specific business goals with regards to numbers I want to hit and the success of a new program I will be launching (👀SOON! 👀) but the scheduling improvement I mentioned will also have a significant positive impact on my business. I'm taking a break this year from setting a specific financial target but I will gauge this success based on my comfort level with additional expenditures, primarily vacation and travel. I know that may sound vague but it has a very specific and real meaning to me, which is the important part. As for my "scary" goals, technically I have two of them but they're related and based on how the year starts off with my injury may collapse to one. But I have some relatively lofty goals that I want to hit with regards to my marathon time, and full distance Ironman Triathlon. But before I can really narrow in on these, I need to see how the next couple weeks of training goes as that will drive whether I can tackle both of them, or if I need to focus on just one.

The New Year isn’t about doing everything — it’s about doing the right things with intention.

When your personal health, training, and business goals align, progress becomes sustainable and meaningful.

This year, to summarize my outlook, I’m focused on clarity, consistency, and energy — and helping others do the same.

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Why Energy Matters More Than Time

Some days everything clicks. Other days, it feels like you’re dragging uphill.

That’s not a motivation problem — it’s biology.

When you learn to work with your energy patterns instead of fighting them, performance becomes far more sustainable.

When I look back at this past year one of my more successful changes I made was a shift in my schedule and leaning into my energy fluctuations.  This allowed me to be more present for the aspects of my life I wanted to, excel when I needed to, enjoy my days more, and feel more rested - despite failing to get as much sleep as I'd want (and probably need).  For me this comprised of a few small but specific changes:

• Loaded up my mornings

• Built in an early afternoon down time

• Protected my Friday evenings such that they became my recharge time.

• Shifted my workouts as needed when life necessitated it

Now I realize, not all of this will work for everyone and we all will approach this differently (as we should) but the process I went through to make these changes can work for everyone.  And as we look forward to a new year, it is a great opportunity to make schedule shifts.

I started this process by recognizing what my daily energy shifts looked like and when I typically feel most energetic as well as where my lulls are. Some of this I was mostly aware of, but keeping track for a couple weeks really helped prove it to myself. Allowing for some variance week to week helps to make sure it is a real pattern and not just a one off. Not all of this is completely within our control based on work or kids so this process won't be perfect, however we can look to make progress towards a better solution. I then made a shift in my mornings since I've always been a morning person, it seemed logical to me to lean into that such that the bulk of my daily work (and workouts) were done before noon. This shift then created a gap in my early afternoon that I began to relish as an opportunity to refuel, refresh, and take some time to orient the rest of my day. Those two pieces came together rather seamlessly and in conjunction, but the Friday one took longer for me to finally acknowledge as it more or less came out of necessity. At the end of the week, Sunday is the start of my work/exercise week, I was crashing pretty hard and early in the evening. That still opened up Saturday evenings if I wanted to, but allowing Friday to be a "down" evening really helped anchor my week giving my brain and body an opportunity to recover.

While there are some differences between individuals (primarily whether you're a morning person or night-owl) the general biology and trends are consistent. Mornings are associated with a higher cortisol level which helps with mental focus and physical performance. There's a natural dip at some point "mid-day" that's a function of hormone shifts, blood sugar, and stress load. And then in the evenings the shift is toward winding down the day towards recovery. Now the magnitude of the variations aren't consistent from person to person and of course can be "controlled" to some degree by willpower and caffeine. However, understanding these variations allows you to work with your day not against it and save the coffee powered sessions for when you really need it.

So what are some of the signs that a schedule shift might be helpful?

• Living on caffeine

• Poor sleep, especially when feeling exhausted

• Emotional swings

• Forcing workouts when tired

• Consistent lack of focus

There are more, but these are the key ones to look for and for me caffeine was the biggest flag that suggested I should think about a shift. I could tell that what I was doing, while working, wasn't something I could realistically sustain indefinitely, and most likely would create a problem down the road. This is where having some level of awareness and data tracking comes in handy (or a coach) to help spot these trends and allow you to do some experiments on yourself to see what moves the needle in the desired direction. I'm excited to see what I can accomplish this next year based on the continuation of this adjustment process!

Energy isn’t something to dominate — it’s something to manage.

When you learn to roll with daily and weekly trends, performance becomes more consistent, recovery improves, and burnout fades.

High performance isn’t about doing more — it’s about doing the right things at the right time.

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How to Measure Progress (Even When the Scale or Stopwatch Won’t Budge)

Iron sharpens through challenge — not repetition.

Plateaus aren’t roadblocks. They’re invitations to refine your approach, dial in your habits, and train with intention.

Let’s break down how to progress with purpose.

Progress is one of the key metrics we all pay attention to as we train, and we primarily focus on two types of progress - quantitative and qualitative. However, I will admit, for myself and many of my clients, the fixation on the quantitative (numbers/metrics) can be overpowering and dominate the thought process. That's not to say focusing on numbers is a bad thing, for the most part they can be a great metric as they're usually very cut and dry. You either hit that metric/goal or you don't. However, these only tell part of the story and shouldn't be used as the sole metric for gauging progress. You'll want to pair those metrics with some qualitative guides to help you understand HOW you're hitting those numbers. For example, if one of the metrics you're tracking is how much weight you're squatting, it is very easy to keep track of how much weight you load onto the bar (or hold in your hands, or how many body weight squats you're doing). But you'll also want to keep track of qualitative things like how easy/hard those reps feel, how you recover from that workout, how is your range of motions (think squat depth) is improving, and the list goes on from there. Pairing the numbers with the feel gives you a more complete understanding of how you're progressing with your squats, in this example, and a better grasp of when you might actually be hitting a plateau. Many consider plateaus when just the numbers stall, but if you're able to do the same weight but it feels easier, that's not a hard plateau, you're most likely very close to being able to increase the weight.

There are many reasons why you might be hitting an actual plateau where not only are the numbers not moving, but the workouts don't feel any different and they mainly will fall into 3 types:

1. Too much training or not enough fueling - these essentially get to the same problem, too much training load that the body can't properly recover from and as such never adapts.

2. Too little training which doesn't challenge the body enough such that it needs to adapt.

3. The wrong kind of training, an extreme example of this would be doing lots of speed work during your marathon training

So what does it look like to pull out of a plateau, it first starts with understanding IF you're actually in one and then figuring out which of the above three buckets your training falls into. Some of the solutions are simpler to figure out, for example an over training imbalance can be helped with either adding in a de-load week or an increase of calories. Starting with that honest assessment of where you currently are not only with training, but fueling and your other stressors will help narrow down the challenges to work to adjust. My recommendation would be to pick one aspect and make a small change to see if you notice things moving in the right direction, then lean in further. As an example, if you feel your fueling may be off, look to add a small snack, or slightly larger meals, to add around 100-300 calories a day for a week, and see how that impacts not only your training but how you recover and feel. Another option if you're feeling truly stuck, and assuming you don't have a calendar restriction (like a race in 3 weeks), would be to pivot to something completely different for a few weeks. This will provide a radically different stimulus and force your body to respond and adapt.

Sometimes it can be hard to be objective about progress, and it helps to have someone else to observe and discuss your current training. While this is the exact purpose of having a coach or trainer, you can also look to other training partners, friends, relatives, etc to get some feedback on not only the training but how they view your recovery and mentality. This outside viewpoint may be the missing piece in helping crack the plateau challenge.

Plateaus aren’t a dead end — they’re a sign to adjust.

Progress comes from intention, not intensity.

Change the stimulus, fuel well, recover well, and track your trends — and your progress will keep moving forward.

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