Why High Performers Burn Out Quietly

If you’re productive, motivated, and capable, people assume you’re fine.

Even when you’re running on fumes.

That’s the cost of always being “on.”

What does always being "on" look like? It doesn't necessarily mean the same for everyone, but you will notice certain of these statements ring true for you:

• consistently mentally engaged

• quick to react emotionally

• consistently physically tired

• always reachable

• trouble falling asleep as you can't turn your brain off

Now I've used some significant qualifiers there, words like "always" and "consistently" don't take those literally, but do some self reflection on how often those are the case. And maybe you're in the group that runs this way during the week, and then uses the weekend to recharge. That method can work, but typically the weekends aren't long enough, or turned down enough to truly recover from the built up stress of the week.

What this habit of living in this "on" state creates is the situation of chronic stress, and that's important to differentiate from acute stress. Acute stress is the stress we want as that's short term and recoverable stress that our body (and mind) will be able to adapt to better handle in the future. This doesn't mean they have to be the intense kinds of workouts I mentioned earlier, but any sort of event that pushes the body past its level of normalcy is a stressor. In contrast, chronic stress builds over time and indicates that the body doesn't have the capacity to recover such that the stress starts compounding. This can lead to all sorts of physical and mental challenges that take orders of magnitude longer to recover from, REDS (Relative Energy Deficiency in Sports) and stress fractures being two common examples. Chronic stress with have a significant impact on your physical performance as well as mental capacity and motivation levels that far outweigh the downtime needed to prevent this buildup. High performers are especially at risk for these behaviors as they're generally more adept at tolerating stress for longer periods and will normalize any levels of fatigue as they'll "sleep when they're dead." This class of personality is also more likely to dismiss any of the warning signs and push any sort of recovery to the weekend, next week, or once this project ends.

So how does one maximize their performance without falling into a stress cycle they can't get out of? The first step, like with many other processes I've suggested, is an awareness of the patterns. If anything I've mentioned above rings a little true, it would be worthwhile to start paying more attention to your energy levels, mental acuity, sleep habits, and emotional states to understand how they fluctuate. If you notice a couple of these are trending in the directions you don't want, then you'll want to look for ways to help create more of an energy wave, and not an energy straight line. You can still have those peaks, but you need to also create some valleys. This can be done on any timeline you want, but a great place to start would be daily - aim for at least 2 peaks and valleys (to start) during the course of the day. These don't need to be long periods of time, but even carving out a block of time for a walk, phone call with a friend or loved one, or a TV show will help create those valleys. Once you get a handle on how effective this is, you can then look to see if perhaps a full recovery day might be helpful - whether that's on a weekly basis or more spread out. And for those longer more sustained periods of stress (large work project, major presentation, goal race, etc) you should plan for at least a day of recovery after the event to mentally and physically wind down. As you work to incorporate this approach, you'll notice your peaks can become longer and higher with the valleys becoming more natural.

Being “on” isn’t the same as being effective.

Performance is built on cycles — not constant pressure.

The goal isn’t to do less — it’s to recover better.

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Micro-Recovery: Small Actions That Drive Big Performance Gains

Most people think recovery requires time they don’t have.

In reality, recovery works best when it happens in small doses, often.

These micro-recovery habits can change how you feel, train, and perform — without adding anything to your calendar.

While looking at some of the big movers for recovery, things like nutrition and sleep, there's also lots to be gained from thinking small when it comes to recovery.  And by small, I mean short periods of dedicated time that can have outsized benefits in both physical and mental recovery.  As with other topics, I wouldn't suggest trying to implement ALL of these, but pick one or two and see if they help.  Don't panic if something doesn't work for you, pick something else and keep trying.  Once you find something that works, keep it consistent and try to make it part of your normal routines.

Let's start with some that are more physical in nature, with probably the simplest and lowest barrier to entry being a short walk - even just a couple of minutes provides not only muscular benefits, improves digestion, but it can be a nice mental break as well. Also in this bucket would be some sort of mobility work focusing on whatever joints or muscles that may be nagging you, either while sitting by moving through the joints' full range of motion, or coupled with a walk and making it a bit more of a dynamic stretch. Maybe even incorporate some sort of recovery tool in this process, foam rollers may be tougher in the office, but massage guns or a lacrosse ball work wonders and can travel pretty easily. The last one I'll touch on in this article would be to have some sort of a snack, sometimes the best way to break up your day is the injection of a little energy. This snack doesn't have to be large but something that can not only distract you physically (and mentally) but also provide a nice energy boost.

The other aspect of these little recovery breaks are ones that I'll put into more of a mental space or requiring little physical movement. A couple of examples of these kinds of breaks would be:

• Breathing resets - think deep breaths, either structured or just a pause

• Giving your eyes a rest - look away from screens, or close your eyes for a period (don't try this while driving!)

Another idea to consider in this area would be ways to shift your environment to reduce or shift the stressors in some way:

• Wearing Blue light blocking glasses

• Noise generator - white noise works for many, but there are different options that work better for some

• Background music

If you're looking for a plan to implement a break or two into your day, pay attention to your energy levels during the day and see if you notice a period (or two) where you struggle. That's the time you'll want to apply one of these techniques, and try the same one for a couple days to see if you notice a benefit. This is also a case where having some sort of logging or journal routine will come in handy to not only find those lulls, but see what works and what doesn't. I personally use the journal function in the Whoop app to help with these kinds of trials and shoot for a handful of days with the routine and without to have a somewhat decent comparison. The actual tool used doesn't really matter, it is the process of adding that recovery tactic and monitoring how (if) it impacts your body and mentality.

Recovery doesn’t need to be dramatic to be effective.

Small, consistent recovery habits protect your energy, sharpen focus, and keep performance sustainable — especially on busy days.

Start small. Repeat often. Let recovery work with you.

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Stretching Isn’t the Fix: Strength & Movement Are

If you feel stiff, sore, or restricted, your first instinct is probably to stretch more.

But for most people, tightness isn’t a flexibility problem — it’s a capacity problem.

Strength and movement solve far more issues than endless stretching ever will.

I've had many clients initially tell me they wanted to be more flexible and I appreciate that we all have goals however I believe there are better goals to strive for than flexibility out of the gate.  One quick test is a standing squat, notice the depth you can achieve and then perform that same squat using a door frame, bar, squat rack, anything for support and notice the depth again.  For most people, there is a significant difference which shows the issue isn't flexibility (at least in legs) but in strength for your body to get into and out of that position.  Now if you're one of the few that those 2 exercises have similar depths, than yes perhaps mobility is an issue.  However, the second question I then ask is what everyday activities are restricted by this "lack of mobility" and usually there aren't any.  Again, if something comes up that should be addressed but for most they would be better served to chase strength, especially at the edges of their range of motion than spending time on stretching.

The first thing to look at when working on mobility and flexibility, and that is to maximize the range of motion with your exercises. This may require using less weight than normal, but that additional range of motion will provide a large stimulus that will dramatically increase overall strength. Another good option is to hold at that full range of motion to provide a specific stimulus at your weakest portion of the movement. Not only will this combination increase your overall mobility but that increased mobility will greatly decrease your likelihood of injury.

The next best way to increase mobility is through frequent movement of those joints with minimal stress but full range of motion. Think of things like walking, easy bike rides, or perhaps even swimming as activities that fall into this bucket. The main benefits of this kind of movement is that it:

• lubricates joints

• increases blood-flow throughout the body which brings nutrients and removes waste

• and it reinforces natural movement patterns

This movement doesn't need to be a long duration, even short durations can be beneficial - try to at least get to the point where you feel your body loosen up.

All this isn't to say that stretching doesn't have a place in a healthy lifestyle - it certainly can, but many either implement it incorrectly or at the wrong times. There are typically two kinds of stretching:

• Dynamic, or moving stretches - these typically incorporate slow movements through an entire range of motion. Think leg swings, arm swings, body leans, etc.

• Static stretching - holding the same stretched position for anywhere from 10 seconds through multiple minutes.

Dynamic stretching is best used before exercise as a warm-up to prime the muscles for whatever exercise you're about to start. Static stretching is best used either as a cool-down after exercise or as part of a night-time routine to calm the muscles and nervous system before sleep. Stretching then becomes the enhancement tool for your exercise and not the main event.

Most people don’t need more mobility drills — they need more movement and more strength.

Build capacity. Move often. Use stretching as a tool, not a crutch.

When strength and movement lead the way, mobility follows naturally.

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Recovery, Explained: How Your Body Rebuilds After Stress

Stress shapes you. Recovery strengthens you.

Your body is constantly balancing breakdown and rebuild — and with the right inputs, you can turn stress into adaptation rather than exhaustion.

When it comes to stress, recovery, and adaptations the body treats mental and physical stressors in the same fashion with a very similar process. Knowing how this process works not only will help you as you look to make progress, but also pinpoint one of the biggest culprits in leading to plateaus. These stressors can be planned workouts, busy days at work, illness, relationships, or all of them combined and it becomes crucial to account for this when looking at how much you're trying to accomplish and what results are reasonable to expect.

The first step in this process is an immediate response to this stressor that includes things like an increase in heart rate, cortisol and adrenaline rise, mental focus increase, and an increase in blood sugar to provide more energy to meet the increased need. After the stressor has passed the body then shifts into repair mode shifting those resources to stabilize which will include things like a normalization of hormone levels, and repair of any tissue damage. Finally we get into the adaptation phase where muscle strength increases, muscular endurance improves, cognitive resilience increases, and there's a mood improvement all with the goal to better handle the next stressor that comes.

The challenge for many is balancing out the stressors such that this entire process can run from start to finish in an efficient manner. Too strong or too quick of a stressor and the body never finishes the repair mode and as such can't adapt or grow stronger. The repair process can also be delayed by other factors too, such as poor sleep, underfueling, or even relationship stress. Some indicators that you may be stuck in this cycle are consistent muscle soreness or perpetual fatigue. The flip side can also cause problems as too weak of a stressor, or ones spaced too far apart and the body never triggers an adaptation as it doesn't need to.

Unfortunately, there is no one single test that can identify either of these as the exact problem you may be facing in hitting your goals. However, if you find yourself stuck at a plateau or feel like you're just going through the motions, the first place to start would be that honest assessment of your stressors and what actions you're currently taking. If you feel like you're perhaps putting your body under too much stress, look for ways to either reduce some of that or change up your workouts by reducing the duration or intensity. Most workout programs have a built-in de-load period to help the body adjust, but depending on where you're starting from it may take longer than that. If you feel like you're on the other side of the fence, I wouldn't suggest increasing your stress (don't go out purposely to get poor sleep) but look to change up or increase your workout frequency/intensity. With either of these paths, I wouldn't look to change too many things or make a drastic change but start small and evaluate progress.

Stress is unavoidable — but recovery is intentional.

When you understand how your body repairs, resets, and rebuilds, you can train harder, handle stress better, and perform at a higher level.

Support the process. Build resilience. Keep forging forward.

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More Than Sleep: How to Recover Physically and Mentally

Sleep is the foundation of recovery — but it's not the whole story.

True recovery happens through the habits, movement, and mindset strategies you use throughout your day.

Here’s how to build a recovery system that supports greater performance, resilience, and consistency.

One of the best recovery tools you can master is sleep, however that doesn't cover all aspects of recovery. Recovery isn't just a single item and it needs to be adjusted based on the specific stressors on the body and how it is handling them. A tricky part for this is that the two aren't always correlated, for example after a hard workout you may feel like you need a mental break more than a physical one. Many think of recovery as the down time between workouts, but it is a complex set of processes the body is consistently engaged in as it deals with the stressors of life. Things like eating, hydrating, watching Netflix are just some of the things that can be leveraged as recovery aids. Recovery is where all the magic happens as not only does the body heal from any damage that has been done, but it also is where the adaptations to those stressors occur. And that's the most important part, we want the body to have the time AND resources needed to make the adaptations we're training for. We don't build muscle during out strength workouts, our body builds in as it recovers and adapts such that it can be more efficient in handling those workouts in the future.

First let's talk about physical recovery, as this is what most think about when recovery comes up. This can essentially be broken into two buckets - movement and fueling. While many might think that a lack of movement (laying on the couch) is the best recovery, usually the best option is light, low impact movement to get the blood flowing to help bring nutrients to the areas of need, and pull all the bad stuff away. Think things like stretching, mobility work, walking, yoga, swimming, all are great options to consider when used appropriately and at a low intensity. That's not to say, there are times when taking time to fully "do nothing" might be the best option, but for me at least, those are usually paired with needing to mentally restore as well. Load management is also a key part in all of this, some times swapping out a strength workout for a mobility day, or changing your speed day for a Zone 2 run will also prove more beneficial in the long term. The other aspect to think of physically is refueling your body not only of the nutrients (carbs, protein, vitamins, etc.) but also hydration. While you may think that since you're taking it easier, you don't need as much fuel - remember that while you're recovering, you're also building, and to build your body needs the fuel to accomplish that task. I'm not suggesting you fuel your recovery days like your monster workout days, but you should most likely fuel more on your recovery days then you think you need to. This is also the bucket where all those fun tools/toys come into play, but that's a whole different post for another day.

Physical recovery is usually the one most people think of first, but we can't underestimate the impact of mental and emotional recovery. Those are much harder to track and monitor as we don't have great ways to quantify those aspects of our lives (yet). And yes, there is some overlap between physical and mental recovery, I myself often find exercise as a great way to let my mind wander and disconnect from the other stressors in my life - but physical exercise still is a stressor on the body. Mindfulness is one of the top ways to foster this kind of recovery and it can take lots of forms (journaling, meditation, quiet time, etc) such that you open up to the idea of acknowledging where you currently are and what paths forward are available to you. This doesn't have to be large block of time, even 5 minutes can be enough to not only provide the mental clarity but an opportunity for your brain and body to rest and reset. Another great option is to take time outside (weather permitting) maybe even combining this with some mindfulness for additive benefits. Finally, a great way to mentally recharge is to be around other people either in person or through voice, text, video chatting. The simple act of reaching out to someone else not only removes you from your stressors but opens up the possibility of connection and helping someone else through their challenges.

Recovery isn't a one size fits all process, it varies from person to person, and from day to day, so the way to improve it is through awareness and experimentation. Consciously understanding where you currently are, trying some things, and then evaluating how you feel during and afterwards. You can do this using some form of journaling, combined with a wearable, or with the help of a coach to see what works for you in various kinds of circumstances. As important as numbers and metrics are, don't discount how you feel either - ideally they will correlate, but sometimes they don't which requires further investigation. This process also applies to the holidays, you'll need to be aware of what's changing in your life, your stressors and your ability to handle them, and adapt your training and recovery appropriately to match those.

Recovery is a skill — and you can build it like any other.

You don’t need an hour, a spa day, or a perfect routine. Just a few intentional habits that help your body and mind reset.

Start small. Stay consistent. Protect your recovery.

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The Most Underrated Performance Tool: Sleep

Sleep is the highest ROI habit in health.

One extra hour can boost focus, regulate hormones, and even improve training outcomes.

Here’s how to start improving your sleep tonight — and what happens when you don’t.

Most people I work with have an understanding or a desire to improve either their sleep quality or the amount of sleep they get, but struggle to effectively make a change.  Like I mentioned in my previous post on Nutrition, awareness is the key first step.  Start a sleep log - paper, electronic, or via an app, doesn't matter at this stage, and start to look for trends to target.  But, something you can start tonight that will make a difference and build towards better sleep hygiene - before you try to go to sleep, take 5 minutes for the following:

• Put your phone/tablet/laptop down for the night

• Focus on your breathing, taking deep controlled breaths

• Reflect on your day, focus on the good things of the day to help calm the nervous system and relax

• Think about 1 thing you want to do tomorrow.  This isn't about creating your to-do list, or run through your calendar, but 1 tangible thing you want to do better tomorrow.  Maybe this is walking more during the day, taking the stairs, drinking more water, picking fruit for a snack and not the candy, or whatever small tangible step seems plausible to accomplish.  And then check in on your progress with that the next night.

What does this 5 minutes get you?  It starts you on the path to establishing a night time ritual that you can build on that doesn't have to be overly complex.  It simply needs to be a series of things you do (ideally around the same time each night) that helps you signal your body that it is time to sleep.  As you progress on the journey towards better sleep, there are lots of other things you can look to change, but for now, start small and build momentum. Another simple (not necessarily easy though) step to take that you can implement immediately, start reframing sleep from something you need to do to prevent the negative impacts, towards an attitude that embraces the restorative and supercharging benefits more productive sleep provides.

I know many live by the "I'll sleep when I'm dead" mantra, and I lived that way for a while too, but at some point that lack of sleep will come back around. Lack of sleep is one of the biggest stressors you can subject your body to, so it will dramatically limit your ability to perform as well as fight off any illnesses or injuries. The mental impact sometimes is hard to recognize as so often we've gotten used to the feelings and don't really appreciate it until we start getting CONSISTENT good sleep. Also it is hard to compare the impact on our body as there isn't a great way to quantitatively compare what it could be if we were getting better sleep. Some wearables can help address this and provide some insights, I personally have been using Whoop for almost 5 years now and have a pretty good feel how impactful sleep is on my mental and physical performance. However, there are numerous studies that look at exactly that - the dramatic impacts poor sleep has on your mental performance and capacity, as well as your physical performance. Physically it is even more damaging as the lack of sleep not only diminishes your performance but it will also prevent you from absorbing the same amount of your training such that you see reduced gains from your daily (or however frequently you work out) efforts. I could go on talking about the negative aspects, but honestly that list is VERY long!

Not only will you see the opposite of the above problems when you start getting consistently solid sleep, but you will also start to notice long term trends as well. The big health metrics - things like body fat percentage, blood pressure, and metabolism will all trend better as you work on your sleep quality. This is not only due to the short term impacts, but while we sleep the body has the opportunity to recover and repair itself. This recovery and repairing then compounds with your training load to create a very powerful healthy stress, recover, and adapt cycle that allows your brain and body to best leverage the hard work you're doing.

To summarize the last two paragraphs simply - progressing towards healthier sleep is the single best way to supercharge your tomorrow. It is one of the harder changes to make, but the benefits can be life changing.

Sleep is the foundation — not the reward — for your hard work.

You don’t earn it after performing; you build everything from it.

Small changes tonight can create measurable improvements in your energy, focus, and recovery tomorrow.

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You Can’t Outperform Stress — But You Can Learn to Recover From It

Even iron needs time to cool before it can be forged again.

Your body and mind are no different.

Today, we’ll explore the balance between stress and recovery — and how to strengthen both.

Stress is a part of all of our lives and what complicates the challenge is that stress is required for the exact kind of healthy adaptations we all strive for, that's the good stress. Most people think of stress as a bad thing, and in many cases it is, but the majority of stress actually has a positive impact on the body. Where stress becomes a problem is when there is too much of it for the body to handle, the classic too much of a good thing problem. Let's start with something you can implement today that will have an immediate impact on how your body handles stress. Like I've mentioned before, awareness is where I start with all my clients - but I'll admit, that process takes time (a few days) so today take at least one 5 minute break during the day to pause, reset, and get ready to tackle the next task. Maybe even take part of that 5 minutes to practice awareness of your stressors.

Taking a deeper look at stress, it typically can be divided into 6 buckets:

• Physical - exercise or injury would be examples.

• Mental - think learning tasks or prepping for a meeting.

• Environmental - outside noise, pollution, temperature, and allergens fall into this bucket.

• Emotional - general mood and happiness

• Existential - why are we here and what is our purpose?

• Relation - friends, family, and coworkers would fall here.

Inside of these buckets there are good stressors and bad ones, which are usually rather obvious, but there are some good stressors that can become bad if done at the wrong time or at too high of an intensity. For example, strength training when done appropriately is a great form of exercise. However, lifting too hard for what your body can handle that day will most likely lead to soreness and potential injury with long term impacts if consistently overused. This is where that self awareness comes into play, having a feel for your body and knowing when it is a day to push, when to pull back, and understanding that when you have to over-reach because of a deadline or race, you will need extra recovery on the other side. Using wearables can be a help in this area to monitor the body's response to stress and help give some quantitative measurements on things like Heart Rate Variability and Resting Heart Rate which are both good indicators of overall stress and how primed your body is to handle more. The best approach is a mixture of the numbers and the knowledge of your body to form that complete picture.

What does recovery look like then from all these different kind of stressors? As you've probably guessed, that first step in a awareness or audit of your primary stressors and then looking for ways to handle them. Some may have immediate simple solutions, for example an air filter in your office to help remove allergens and other contaminates if that's an area you struggle with. Others are more complicated and 100% might require some outside assistance to help work towards resolving. And some are constant parts of life and need continual work to manage. Inside each of those stress buckets are also recovery techniques that you can apply, here are some examples:

• Physical - sleep, stretching, low intensity exercise

• Mental - reading, preparation, planning

• Environmental - air filters, blankets for warmth, air conditioning

• Emotional - honest communication, mental exercises such as reframing

• Existential - prayer or meditation

• Relation - that supportive friend or family member

This isn't to say that the best way to recover from a stressor in one area is recovery in that same area, sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't. You've probably noticed that you have great ideas when taking a long hot shower - that physical recovery technique can not only relive physical stress, but open you up to recovering from pretty much all the other types of stress too. You will notice over time, what recovery techniques work for you and which ones work best for specific stressors you face. My two most consistent tools I use for recovery are my sauna blanket and reaching out to friends and/or family. These 2 not only hit multiple buckets but also are examples of a daily routine and a more tactical tool to handle the stress spikes we all go through. The way to become adept at managing your stress is to develop a full tool chest of recovery options that you know work for you, can be pulled out when needed, and used as backups when your first choice doesn't yield the results you're looking for.

Stress isn’t the enemy — it’s the signal. Recovery is the response.

You can’t eliminate stress, but you can build systems that help you handle it better and bounce back stronger.

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